Wednesday, January 01, 2014

2014: Let's do this.

Hey, 2014; you ready for me?

Because you're here... I'm here... we're going to do this whether either of us wants to or not.

So we may as well get on with it.

This was not a New Years Eve spent in debauchery or partying in da club; this was a new year spent with my family and a glass of wine. The fire was lit, we had a Big Bang Theory marathon. 

I also made my resolutions. That word makes me shudder. It means that the gym will be overcrowded with well-meaning resolutionaries. It means taking those little things I know I should be doing and trying to do them all at once and of course--failing.

Resolutions are those things I trip over.

So I considered the word that for me will define what I want to do in 2014: FOCUS. Then, I wrote down a list of things I hope to accomplish in 2014, actions that will grow out of being more focused. Not so much resolutions as things I logically know that should be taking place in my life. And I liked it so much I used an app to turn it into a poster. And I'm going to try to do these things:

Focus, exercise more, smile a lot, learn new things, laugh with abandon, meditate, stop worrying, write more, practice what matters, engage, fall down and get back up

Because I know that these things will make an impact.

Here's the deal: I'm tired of divisive behavior, of wasting energy on things that just don't matter. Yesterday, before the lovely evening with my family, I had a less-lovely interaction with someone who clearly just wanted to create drama. I came thisclose to engaging before deciding... no. Because a battle of wits with someone who is just trying to provoke you is not productive. Some people exist just to piss off other people. That's not what I need in my life.

So this is what I'm going to do instead. That smile on my face may make me look like Sheldon struggling to make social nice, but eventually, it will be comfortable and I'll do it without even thinking about it.

So, let's do this. I'm ready.


  1. I'm with you. Focus in '14!

    1. Like badass lady bosses, we shall succeed.
      But I do reserve the right to be easily distracted by shiny/noisy/comfortable/random things as well.

  2. Mari your 2014 Focus is "apptastic!" I just made that up. I love the concept of "resolutionaries" in the gym. Hoping to spend more time with you in the New Year.

    1. Lisa, getting to see more of you in the new year would definitely help me to attain several of those goals--especially smiling. :)

    2. This exchange was so sweet, it made ME smile. Thanks, girls!

      Mari, thanks for sharing your process of creating your goals. I love seeing how other people do it, and I really like your "focus."

  3. Love this post! I need to try hard not to engage, and by default, Indulge drama-mongers. Or unpleasant people in general. Focus is a great theme and an excellent goal. To 2014!